In almost all cases, the answer to this question can be given in one word: nervous. The muscles in the vaginal area are tense and you don't give them a chance to relax properly before trying to insert yourself with a huge dildo.

The first solution to this problem is to take the time to allow your body to relax properly before attempting any kind of penetration.

Please do it yourself. Create a relaxed and happy atmosphere. Have slow, gentle foreplay. In general, get to know your body and give it the love it deserves! It will respond by opening up to you and accepting the dildo of your choice with ease and comfort.

What you find relaxing and/or exciting varies from person to person.

The most important thing is to understand what you need to figure out what works for you.

We've included some tips and advice in the following sections, but that doesn't mean all of them -- or even any of them -- are what you need. It's all about understanding your own body and what relaxes you and excites you. Hey - if you find a technique that works for you and you don't see it on the list below, drop us a note at Lovegasm!

We are all learning new sexy tips and tricks from our valued clients. Who knows - one day you might even see your suggestion featured in an article like this one!

Without further ado, here are some of our personal favorite tips, straight from our Lovegasm staff, on how to put yourself in a good mood and help your body accept a vaginal dildo more easily than ever!

set mood

Don't just sit on the bed, shove the dildo into the vagina and fuck it. That doesn't sound very sexy, does it? Of course it won't! Instead, it sounds clinical, dull, and boring—it turns masturbating with a dildo into a "quick and dirty" thing to get done and done as quickly as possible before continuing your day. This is not what we want at all!

Creating a romantic, erotic atmosphere is one of the first ways to relax your body (including your vagina) in preparation for a fun time with your favorite dildo.

This can be achieved in a number of ways. Dim the lights - or turn them off completely. Light a candle or incense with your favorite scent. Take a warm bath and enjoy a luxurious bath that may include your favorite soap, lotion or bubble bath. Play emotional music - we recommend some soft instruments.

If you want an extra treat, book yourself a massage or spa day and keep the dildo play until your body feels good and relaxed. Alternatively, have your partner give you a massage, especially to remove any pressure from the buttocks, thighs, and lower back (the area closest to the genitals and therefore most likely to affect vaginal tension).

Take the time to open

Once you're relaxed, the next step is to get yourself well and be awakened. The more aroused you are, the more relaxed your vagina will be—not to mention, the wetter it will be, which means the dildo will slide in easier than you might think.

The best way to do this is through a long, slow-paced foreplay. Stay relaxed throughout. Do not worry. Don't set timers or impose deadlines on yourself. Let your body move at its own pace, whether it's hanging on the edge for seconds or slowly building a sweet burn in your core over minutes or even hours. Of course, how you get aroused or what kind of foreplay you engage in will be the biggest part that will vary from person to person.